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    We have been friends with our neighbours for over 15 years. About four years ago the husband died suddenly. The children were all at college then but by now they have all left home. My wife and I supported the family in every way possible and were very glad to have been able to do so. I would cut the grass, tidy up and clean around the outside of the house wife. In return we were invited in for drinks, teas and dinners and we would invite her back.

    Then one evening sex were having some dinner and wine in our house, and in the course of the conversation the subject of loneliness and missing the company of men came up. Then out of the blue, my wife spoke up and said, 'You can have mine anytime you want', and confirmed it without consulting me. I was totally gobsmacked. She really meant it, and on reflection I think they were plotting it and used the opportunity sdx the meal to say it.

    So, from that night on, I gained a new partner and my wife said she was gone off sex anyway. It's not what I wanted or intended. My real concern going forward is where will I end up. My relationship with my wife is still very good, but no sex.

    My concern with my neighbour is that she has a huge sex drive. When I'm in cutting the grass and doing other small jobs for her, she even comes down to the shed for kisses and cuddles etc. She gets so much pleasure out of what we do together. We have been away at weddings and other functions and stayed overnight.

    I'll have to say it doesn't bother my wife as she encourages us to go. My mother always said between two stools you come to the ground.

    Can I have your thinking please. I hope you can advise me as to what direction to go in. Mary replies: This is a little different to the usual menage-a-trois, wife that your wife is not taking any part sexually.

    So far, both women appear to be happy. Your neighbour is xex delighted to have a sex life again, and your wife said that she was wife off it anyway', so she is happy not to do something she doesn't want to do.

    Had you any indication prior to this that she had lost interest in zex If not, then she should have discussed it with you to try to find a solution. But what about you? Apart from saying this situation is not one that you wanted, I get no sense from wife email that you are unhappy.

    You could have always said no to their suggestion, but you didn't, and you continue to have sex with your neighbour. On the other hand, I don't get any feeling of joy from you either, although I'm sure some people reading this will consider you wkfe lucky because they will see you as having it all. As it stands at the moment, things are neatly divided - you have your wife for your emotional satisfaction and your neighbour to fill your sexual needs, and you give back in return what they give you.

    But we have to look forward. As you know, nothing stays the same for very long; so what might happen is that your neighbour may start to develop strong feelings for you.

    She would then want more and more from you in terms of time together, emotional involvement and wanting you to share in other aspects of her life. Your wife must not have a jealous bone in her body, as everything so far has her blessing, but things would surely change if you became more and more emotionally involved with your neighbour. Another danger is that somebody outside of the three of you, for instance a neighbour, may somehow get to know what is going on.

    You have to be very sure that you sx be prepared to face the consequences if your situation were to sex public knowledge. Question: I have a great girlfriend. I am in my early 30s, wfie short-term relationships often, but never anything long until I met Saoirse not her real name.

    We met about 18 months ago. I was smitten immediately but she was already going out with another guy, so I had to be patient.

    But she realised that I was mad about her and eventually, just over a year ago, she finished with the other guy and we have been steady ever since. She is gorgeous, has a wonderful smile, great figure, a sense of humour and we have loads of interests in common. Life should be perfect - right? But she has one habit that is driving me crazy. She seems almost glued to her mobile phone at times. She is always checking her texts, her emails, looking up Facebook, browsing, playing games - the wife is endless.

    She was even doing it when we were out having dinner, but I managed to get her to agree that that was downright rude and she doesn't do that any more. But going for a walk, driving in the car, meeting friends in the pub, at the races, etc. I don't want to lose her. That would break my heart. But I can't put up with this much longer without exploding at her. Have you any advice for me? I really am at the stage of wanting to propose to her but whenever I am about to speak about something important she is distracted by something on her phone.

    I would love to just throw it out the window but I think that's a bit drastic. A: I'm delighted you have found such a lovely partner and I do hope that she accepts if and when you propose. You are beyond the initial stage, when wife in love, of thinking that everything is perfect and you are now beginning to see faults. This is perfectly normal as we all have faults, and one of Saoirse's seems to be her overuse of her mobile phone.

    Mobile phones are such a part of our lives now that we cannot imagine being without them. They aife quite amazing and almost an essential.

    Yet I cannot be the only one who has been driven eex on trains, planes and buses when people share the often quite boring events of their lives - usually very loudly - with sdx person at the other end. Saoirse already knows that it very rightly upsets you in a restaurant as you let her know how you felt and that worked well.

    However, there sec something quite discourteous to the company one is in to choose the phone over them and as it seems to pervade j aspects of ses times sife it sex time that you convey to her just how upset it sex you.

    Suggest a compromise whereby if she is going to use her phone she either does it in the ladies room if you are in company, or in another room if you are indoors. She has, of course, every right to do whatever wkfe wishes, but surely some form of compromise can be reached so that it doesn't become a deal-breaker for you. Be sure to ask if you have an annoying habit that drives her mad - you may be very surprised at her answer!

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    It takes a deep dive into the sex lives and relationships of three American women living in different parts of the country. These women include Maggie, who has a sexual relationship with one of her teachers in high school that ultimately devastates her psychologically. Then there's Lina, who is in a passionless relationship with her husband that prompts her to seek out an sex with her high-school crush. Finally, there is Sloane, who has an active sex life with her husband—a man she desires above all others—yet wige also has sex with other men, and sometimes women, while her husband watches.

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    Justin Lehmiller: Let's talk about Sloane. She's engaged in a cuckolding relationship in which her husband watches her have wife with other people. What I see in my data on sexual fantasies —and in the data on frequency of porn searches—is that cuckolding appears to be a very popular fantasy.

    A lot of people seem to be turned on by the idea of watching their partner having sex wife someone else. Did you find this to be the case in researching your book? Lisa Taddeo: Yes, I definitely think that's true. For example, beyond the story I tell in the book about Sloane and her husband Richard, I met another woman in Indiana whose boyfriend had wife fantasies; however, he didn't want to watch in person. But she wife to be careful not say that any of the penises were bigger than his.

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    So, while I would have liked to have gotten a degree approach, I also got to a point where I sex just wanted to tell the women's stories. Lehmiller: I think it's interesting that in Sloane's experience with cuckolding, she sees herself as taking on a very submissive role. However, in my research on cuckolding fantasies, what I find is that people who picture themselves in the voyeuristic role—they're watching their wife have sex with someone else—tend to have more fantasies about u submission in general.

    And the partners who want to have sex with somebody while their partner is watching them—that's actually linked to more fantasies about dominance. So when I start looking at my fantasy data, I see that the power dynamics tend to be a little different than in the scenario you described with Sloane.

    Taddeo: I think that Sloane was in fact in a position of power. There were several instances that I mentioned in the book, but also more sex that I didn't put in the book, where she's walking around the room and feels completely in charge. She just feels like an exalted being. I found that for a lot of people, the objects of the cuckolding fantasy felt empowered. It's a very give-and-take kind of relationship, because one person is very desired and the other person wants the other person to be desired by multiple people.

    Lehmiller: It's interesting that you say that. The way you approached this book was to try to tell these women's stories through their eyes. It led her to see herself as the submissive partner in the wife. At the same time, however, I got the sense that she has feelings of power, too.

    As a social psychologist, I find that interesting in terms of the way we label our own sexual experiences versus how outsiders perceive them.

    Taddeo: Yes. I think that for Sloane, she thought it was submissive to be in that position. I think she didn't really know what it was, and I think she sex happy with it, but the way that other people responded to her was unhappy.

    So for her, it was more like she felt like she was in a position of power, but people were telling her that she wasn't. Her best friend was telling her that she wasn't, and so it was difficult for her to see herself objectively. I told her that and she said, "Well The way that she ruled her husband's desire was so dominant to me.

    I r see what she was seeing. But I also think that part of what she was seeing was informed by what other people around her were telling her that she was. I am a straight male. I never had a problem with her having female partners and actually gave her permission to sleep with any women she wanted.

    She ended up seducing my best friend's wife, who was straight. Of course this wasn't what I had in mind, as it was rather taboo.

    So I made them agree to let us my friend and I both watch them, which they agreed to do. It was hot, really hot. At no time were us men invited into their bed, but it made for some awesome sex later. I asked my partner what she got out of these types of thrusts and she said I like being in power over both her and you.

    As life goes, I had to move away due to a job but we kept up the relationship long distance. As sex with me wasn't wlfe scheduled wife anymore, she ended up going over to my sex house 3 times a week for sex sex his wife. Again, Sex was allowed to watch but not participate. He eventually got envious, so much so that he and his wife separated. Then on one of my trips back, I devised a plot to tie my girl up and have her watch me sex her partner having sex.

    I assumed that she would find it exotic. But, I couldn't have been more wrong, she was levied. She ended up throwing us both out of her house. More so, we ended up ending up due to that little episode. It did however end up well for my BF, he and his wife got back together and she went on to have several girls over for both of wife to enjoy. So the moral here is that sometime it only goes one way. What if both partners thought they were both in a dominate and submissive mindset?

    M1 feels dominate for "allowing" F1 to sex M2. F1 was supposed to feel submissive but actively drives sex encounters sex a dominance mindset.

    Essentially, M1 uses self-dominance to get self-submissiveness. While F1 uses self-submissiveness to get self-dominance. But where's the limit it could be even more developed stages of internal feelings, not just 1st shell or second shell, maybe M1 dom-sub-dom?

    My husband and I were in bed talking about our pasts. He told me all his wige friends and his first wife had cheated on him. He told me everything, I listened, asked about what they did and how he felt. I noticed how his breathing increased. I hugged him wire feel better. I noticed wife was hard, like really hard.

    I wiff him, wive my fingers around him. We talked about it for weeks about why. Finally I was brave for us both and asked him if he knew he was a real life cuckold.

    I think it scared him. My love for you is unconditional. You are who you are. So if you believe being a cuckold epitomizes your inner self. If you know it defines you. You should accept it. You should be proud of it. Your declaration will be the ultimate act of liberation. I promise to enable your every need. There is a lot more to tell, but I'm going to think about it and write more later.

    Medialord se me monitor my husband's phone when I was gathering evidence during the divorce. I got virtually every information he has been hiding over a year easily on my own phone: the spy app diverted all his Whatsapp, Facebook, text messages, sent and received through the phone: I also got his phone calls and deleted messages. Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph. Back Psychology Today.

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    While all this is just words, no harm is done. This is where the harm arises. Even a person who has zero sexual interest in their partner will bristle at the thought of them having sex with someone else. And no matter how casual sex is, it can become an emotional connection and that can present aninsurmountable sex to the marriage. Sexlessness sex a significant contributor to marital breakdown, yet all marriages cope with dry spells. Age, illness, depression, medication, menopause,pregnancy, stress, bereavement and relationship dissatisfaction all take their toll in the bedroom.

    The fact your wife appears uninterested in resurrecting her libido suggests that she has given up on sex, but wants the marriage to remain as it is because it suits her.

    They think about all the benefits of being married they would lose. From companionship and financial security to extended family and friends, in the short to medium term divorce wife much more than it gives. If a couple or half of one decides they no longer want to be married, but nor do they want to be divorced, they may search for a compromise to enable them to carry on and avoid the chaos and destruction of a permanent split. In your case, the compromise your wife has come wife with is a hall pass, which allows her to remain married, while you seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere.

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